Feeling lonely is something we can all relate to. The Global State of Connections report says at least a quarter of 4.5 billion people felt ‘lonely’ or ‘very lonely’ last year. The WHO has declared it to be a pressing global threat.
Loneliness hits us all in different ways. Sometimes, it is in a crowd and sometimes, because we are missing our support system. Loneliness brings a bunch of other emotions: rejection, anxiety, numbness, and sadness. It is totally normal to experience these emotions, especially when loneliness has stayed for quite some time. We often try and dodge these feelings and look for any distraction that can help us overcome feelings of loneliness. But, let’s be real, these distractions work only for a small amount of time.
The following strategies make this emotion easier to deal with:
1. Understanding loneliness: Loneliness as a feeling is our body trying to communicate that it wants to feel a sense of connection. Losing a connection with others or the self can also lead to loneliness. What does connection mean for you? What do you need from yourself or the people around you to feel a connection? For example, for some, it can look like venting to a trusted person. For some, it can look like a solo date. Remember: loneliness is just a phase. And like all phases, it passes too.
2. Discover your tribe: A lonely period is a chance to find out what lights you up. Volunteering, joining a club, or starting a new hobby can be enriching because it helps us be a part of something bigger than ourselves and an opportunity to know ourselves more. For example, joining a book club, a dance club, etc. Not only does this let you give back to society, but it is a great way to meet new people and feel connected!
3. Discover new things: Got some solo time on your hands? In a similar vein as the last one, this alone time is the best chance to dive into solo activities. Starting a DIY home project, trying a new recipe, or perfecting a craft, etc., there is plenty to choose from! It is also a great place to think about the habits you want to develop. Who wouldn’t want to reconnect with themselves?
4. Nurture current bonds: Ever wonder what you’d want to think back on when you’re older? It is usually the people we value or the experiences we had. If you are feeling lonely currently, now is the chance to grow closer to them! Figure out what you want from your friends, and have a good chat with the people involved. Letting people know what you appreciate about them is powerful. Reconnect with your old bonds, be this with family, old school friends, neighbours etc. and build a strong support system for yourself.
5. Feel what you feel! Having feelings only makes you human. Sometimes, sitting with emotions can be really powerful.Take a moment to notice all the emotions bubbling inside you. Each of them is like a little message from your body. So, what is loneliness and the feelings associated with you trying to tell you? What do they need from you?
Writing in a journal and using art or dance can be a great way of getting those emotions out. If nothing works, therapy can help you find a balance too!
6. Be your own cheerleader: In tough times, it is important to be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself by exercising, eating nutritious food, and getting enough sleep. Don’t beat yourself down for feeling lonely! Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to your best friend—you deserve it. Just a friendly reminder: emotions are totally normal, none of them are ‘good’ or ‘bad’.
In conclusion, tackling feelings of loneliness helps our overall well-being. It is human to compare yourself to others but remember that this is just a feeling. With the tips we have covered, we can ease these feelings in the long haul. It is a good thing that no feeling sticks around forever. Even if loneliness feels like a big, grey cloud hovering over you, a golden light will peak through it one day. Asking for help takes real courage, so don’t hesitate to ask for it. Feel free to check out our other articles and resources for more support on mental health and well-being. You’ve got this!
